I'm Perfectly Imperfect and That's All She Needs
When I was pregnant I had this big idea of what kind of mother I would be. I made so many plans and set impossible standards for myself.
I so badly wanted to be that perfect mother I saw all over social media.
The mom who looked so happy all of the time.
The mom with the amazing home that looked straight out of Pinterest.
The mom who dressed up and always matched with her children.
The mom who had kids that hardly seemed to make a fuss.
The mom who always had it together...
When my daughter came and I realized I was far from that perfect mom. It was hard for me to accept that I couldn’t be her. I made myself believe that I was the worst mom on the planet because I was so far from the image I wanted for myself. I was disappointed in myself.
I found out really quickly, that being a mother wasn’t always easy and beautiful. In fact it felt impossible most days. My life was unfiltered and raw, and it scared the crap out of me.
I felt like I was constantly getting knocked off of my feet even when I thought I’d finally found grounding.
Despite how impossible it seemed, I kept getting back up and trying again.
After so many bumps in the road I came to realize something that changed the way I looked at myself.
I would never be the perfect mom that I had imagined, and I needed to be okay with that. I accepted the fact that I am a great mom, who does and will continue to make mistakes. I began to see that my daughter needed me and loved me, even though I wasn’t the perfect mom.
I’m not the perfect mother, but I’m exactly the mother my daughter needs. My daughter has a mom that makes mistakes, and messes up a lot. She has a mom that would do everything to love and protect her. She has a mom that tries her best and will always be there no matter what.
I’ve learned that I am enough for my daughter. And to every mama who reads this, just know you’re exactly the mama your children need, and please never forget it. ♥️
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