Mad's Not Bad
✨MAD’S NOT BAD✨MAD’S NOT BAD✨MAD’S NOT BAD✨
✨ALL FEELINGS ARE OK✨
Anger and sadness? They get a bad rap. But feeling mad is valuable info! It usually means:
🤬Something wasn’t ok with you
🤬Someone hurt you
🤬You’re scared or overwhelmed
🤬You're upset about something totally unrelated, and need a RELEASE
Tune into the mad. It’s OK to feel mad! Yes, even you, you brilliant parent. Stuffing down that anger is going to bring out an explosion later on. Instead? Notice it coming, take a break, and LET THAT SH*T OUT in healthy ways: Working out, journaling, venting, punching a punching bag, whatever works for YOU.
And for our kids? YES! Even your little one is allowed to feel mad, in fact, it’s healthy!
I hear you, they're freaking out because the crayon is too purpley. BUT, when you respond to your kid's anger by telling them to calm down, stop crying, or sending them to a timeout, you're telling your child MAD IS BAD.
And when they're older? When they feel mad because someone touched them in a way they didn't want, or did something they didn't like, they'll shove that anger deep down in those moments, rather than FEEL ANGER and stick up for themselves.🤯
The goal? Help your toddler/child:
💫Recognize their anger
💫Release it safely
💫Build coping skills
And? There’s a HUGE difference between the “feeling” and the “behavior."
✨The FEELING is ok. The behavior is not✨
Here's how you show them:
✨ACCEPT & ACKNOWLEDGE
“You were still playing with that! You’re feeling so mad that he took it from you.”
✨OK THE FEELING
“It’s ok to feel mad. That IS upsetting.”
“It’s ok to feel mad. It’s not ok to hit. I’m going to help keep everyone safe.” (Calmly move the child being hit, or gently move the hitter aside for a calm down moment).
Then later when your toddler is calm:
✨TEACH THE COPING SKILLS✨
“Next time, what can you do when you're feeling angry? Yes! You could say, ‘I’m still playing with this. You can have it when I’m done!’
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