One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is teaching them to respect, develop, and set boundaries at an early age. Before we can discuss how to teach our children about boundaries we need to understand that the foundation for boundaries is a secure attachment.
Earlier today, I asked you to voice your opinion on whether or not you would allow certain behaviors. If you didn’t get a chance to share or see how other fellow parents weighed in please visit my stories after this post. Risky childhood behavior can be a tricky topic because there is a fine line between true danger and risk.
Don't underestimate the power of the basics! When I first discovered Human Design I thought that the fastest track to living my design was knowing ALL.THE.THINGS. I can't pinpoint exactly when, but I had a major wake up call when someone asked me if I could explain my design to them and I literally went blank.
Much of the harm is unmeasurable. If we are thinking about emotional outcomes, such as anxiety, depression, ability to cope with stress, trauma etc., these are outcomes that are not directly tangible or easily observable. These issues may also take years and years to surface, and would require long term studies to evaluate whether sleep training methods played a role.
If you know anything about appraising research, you probably know you can find research to support any opinion or position. It’s important to take a look at the design: the methods, the outcomes being measured, any biases to determine whether there are flaws in the study. Yes, you will find some studies that support the use of CIO techniques for infants.
A common response I get to speaking out against CIO or withdrawal type sleep training methods is, “Show me proof that sleep training is harmful.” While I’m happy to share research that I stumble across, I feel like we sometimes think too simplistically about this issue, and I want to start a several part series explaining some of the problems I have with the current research and parenting paradigms.