What's your trigger?
Mine is whining. And trying to get out the door on time. These are the moments I lose my patience the fastest. Moments when I want to lash out and let my "lizard" brain get the best of me.
Praising kids
I've written about praise before, but in re-reading Alfie Kohn's work recently, my stance on NOT praising kids has been strengthened. Here's why:
Tips for a better life/work balance
It can be hard getting work done without getting disturbed by colleagues, incoming mails or phone calls,.. Put a couple of time slots in your agenda that are for undisturbed work.
Peaceful Parenting
Focusing first on our own self regulation, which includes healing and self-care, so we have a whole-brain and are able to connect and increase connection with our children, so we can coach and not control them.
When we misunderstand parenting.
I too had a complicated relationship with attachment parenting that first half year postpartum. I was committed to the concept, although unbeknownst to me at the time, I had also really misunderstood it.
Children and adult timetables!
Before having children we’re accustomed to the order of our modern lives and careers. When we become parents our logical worlds are thrown into a tailspin. Babies and children don’t fit neatly into adult timetables.⠀
Play with the butterflies.
I've noticed that kids today don’t connect with nature as often as they should. Farming and gardening are simple ways for kids to connect and interact with nature, learn the benefits of organic farming, and improve their knowledge about the environment and ecosystem.
Don’t give up!
It took my baby 5 months before he finally learned how to breastfeed.
Right out of the womb, the latching was off and in just a few short minutes he stopped nursing.
Ever since then, my son would never latch. I saw several lactation coaches, but nothing helped. He would suck for minute and just work himself into a frenzy. I was devastated. I was depressed. In my eyes, I'd failed as a parent. I was adamant about him being a 100% breast milk baby, and I didn’t stop trying. It’s wasn’t easy; I had to pump milk around the clock, and use the SNS feeding system with a nipple shield. I wished it was easier.
I was jealous of all the breastfed babies I saw. It took a ton of discipline to keep going and not give up. It was exhausting to use the SNS cable each and every single time. I couldn’t ever go anywhere or do anything between the pumping and sanitizing. Eventually I switched to using a bottle, and it made life a little easier, but my milk dropped drastically, and I couldn’t get it back up. My sister had to send me her own frozen breastmilk in the mail because I wasn’t making enough. I kept making less and less milk.
At 5 months, I decided to take a leap of faith. I stopped everything and started trying to breastfeed again. No SNS cable, no bottle. It was one of the most difficult and stressful things I ever experienced. After what seemed like an eternity of crying and tears, we were relaxing on the couch one day, and he latched. I couldn’t believe it. It was the most amazing feeling in the world.
My son was breastfeeding - finally after dreaming about this day, it was real. Slowly, the milk came in. Little by little he got better and better at breastfeeding. Eventually I fully transitioned to breastfeeding, and stopped using the bottle and pump.
We’ve been going strong ever since, this photo was taken when he was 9 months old. My son just turned 2 and we don’t plan on stopping anytime soon. Don’t give up!
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